Judgment vs Facts

"Don't judge", "You judge a lot", "I like that you don't judge anyone". People keep saying these sentences. One of those sentences would be enough to make or break your day. But, in what context do people say it, and is judging people even needed?

The straightforward answer to the question is No for most. For some, they say it's needed. I look at the whole concept of judgment a bit differently. That is where Facts come in.

Let's say a person wakes up early. Our parents judge them to be good. Or if someone's addicted to drugs, we feel that it's bad and change the way we treat them. The whole concept of judgment comes from us thinking whether something's good or bad. But in the process, we ignore the fact in itself.

If someone wakes up late, accepting the fact that they wake up late has to come first. Whether it is good or bad isn't even necessary at an initial step. The acceptance of information without our perspective on it is what most of us lose.

The other end of the spectrum comes in where some don't want to judge anyone, so they put all the information into good. "Oh! My friend smokes. It's harmful yet I should not judge my friend. So I'll support him". That too pushes you. from accepting it as a fact to making your judgment. The fact is crucial, and taking the step as per a personal preference is secondary.

This helps not only you but others too. If you only judge, you either stay with the person or you'll leave the person. If you first accept the fact, you can always maintain a rapport with them without losing who you are. Eventually, that helps the other person too.

No one is good or bad. Everyone is just slightly different.