WEEK-IN #3
Invisible Pressure
Our generation of students seems to be having fun and enjoying life, but we too are under the constant pressure of planning our next step. This has been way too much to handle and is leading to frustration for the masses.
If you are a girl and you get a job, you are put on a schedule. Plan for marriage, then kids, then their education, and back to the start of their marriage. If you are a boy and you get a job, that very moment you'll have to take up the whole responsibility of family and handle everything as fast as possible. These pressures are building up in our minds and bring out either Bad results or A lot of frustation.
We do understand the reason for our parents creating this schedule of life, but we all need some time to adjust. We only need a couple of things.
- Responsibilities are to be taught slowly so that we can absorb everything and plan our day-to-day life accordingly.
- Freedom. This word does raise conflicts. But, we all need freedom of thought, speech, and to act a bit more. Yes! We do get that freedom, but we need it in everything we do. We do need our parents to teach us stuff, but not to decide what we should be doing.
- Expectations are to be broadened. There is nothing wrong with parents expecting something from their children. But, having those expectations so narrow as of their children should be successful in a specific domain and field is killing dreams. Expect that your children are gonna be successful in any field/domain they like.
A great explanation of the emotion between a thoughts of parents and sacrificing life of children
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DeleteWell man,I appreciate you and ur friends effort on thinking through this!
ReplyDeleteI would like to drop by and share few thoughts that just striked while reading this blog
Firstly, our generation is so lucky in all aspects wrt life when compared to our previous ones because of which the comfort zone had built in and younger ones are feeling things as pressure as they are not able to think out of the box.
I don't think parents are the one who plans those schedule it's the society which does and parents get carried away by that and try to implement them in there kids life because they always till there last breath strive to give the best to them! Coming to chasing the dreams point as raised above, If one is really really passionate about that dream they will definitely work towards it without any diversions what so ever come in there way and because of this there dreams are diluted and even most of them know they can't achieve these bcz of there mistakes that they do and try to point fingers at the surroundings rather than questioning them selves.
Having said that there are really ppl who are focused and would like to take up things as they wanted but could not do so bcz of several reasons it maybe financial support, emotional support , lack of support from ppl around etc but the doors are not closed for those kind of ppl until they Stop quitting. I need not specifically tell how prominent and eminent personalities strived hard failing throughout in all aspects but still they could gain there momentum bcz of there never ending zeal towards it and even if they fail they don't blame anyone and only question the process and try to rework.
Now, coming to the big question I have - How many young generation ppl really take time off everything and sit with there parents and know how hard they have worked to be in whatever position they are currently . Also we have to remember that they don't have these many resources available with jus a click in there pockets as available for us now.
How many of them sit with them and ask about them after doing lots of work toiling so hard each n every day to give us the best. It's very unfortunate to say that most ppl now a days are taking there parents for granted. They spend time hours and hours in social media but can't spend time with there own parents.
Coming to the word responsibility! It is not something to be taught it is something to be learnt over a period of time. If u like a plant, u don't feel pressure to take care of it because u feel it's ur responsibility. That means u are feeling responsible for that particular thing.In the same manner one should feel responsible for everything around ur able to do something with that or not (action) part is secondary but feeling responsible for every thing is very important. Then the pressure word vanishes js like that.
Another fascinating word freedom - frankly speaking our generation jus uses it anywhere and everywhere bcz they don't know the importance of it and have it from the time they are a toddler. Most of u get everything u want from our parents without hvng to ask much. Imagine our parents generation if they have to get something how hard for them it would be to get that pls take time and talk to ur parents then u understand it better. They are not deciding what you should do they give u resources to build ur so called dream but most of us don't utilise them due to various factors.
If u really have some dream and if ur parents can afford it then definitely they will support to bcz understand that they always want to give u the best and they are sacrificing everything they can throughout. If u don't like something u need to make them understand what it is and what u really want and its duly n soley ur responsibility.
Give it a thought go spend time with ur loved ones know there pain points from the past and let them know that ur grown ones!
Jus my thoughts not to offend anyone, Peace!
I totally understand every single sentence you’ve written, and there are a million ways to look at this problem.
DeleteWe’ve tried to explain the generation gap in this blog.
I greatly appreciate the view from other side of the spectrum.
Thanks for such a great insite.
Peace!
It was a great description of contemporary situation where many passed out students are facing with the parents.
ReplyDeleteThankyou. We’ve tried to portray the view of students while understanding the parents side of view.
DeleteInvisible pressure on students is well explained.
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DeleteMany of them are facing this situation but unable to express themselves. Great explanation my friend. Keep going ��
ReplyDeleteThat is true. We have tried our best to express that situation. Thanks for the support.
DeleteFrom an outsider looking in, I feel like this is a product of the society you live in, and not necessarily the "fault" of your parents. Based on my understanding, there is a lot of pressure on your parents to fall within a certain set of standards, and for their children to be successful how society perceives what success is based on a certain set of expectations. In seeing blogs like this, I have a lot of hope that this generation is in the right position to create change that will empower future generations to chase dreams without societal pressures.
ReplyDeleteThe part about pressure from society is absolutely true and we understand that this is not the fault of our parents. So, we all need to break those cord between what are parents expect vs what society expects. Thanks for such an insite.
DeleteIt's actually wats happening now and then in our generation
ReplyDeleteGood keep going
Thanks for catching up with the context.
DeleteGood content. In my view, it's all depends on the society, technology we live in and mostly the financial conditions. Irrespective of society there should be proper understanding between the family members. There will be stress in every part of life and ability to be self motivated and cope up with the situations matters the most. Hope all the barriers break soon😀
ReplyDeleteGood point coming up regarding financial conditions. I totally agree to it. We’ll keep up the spirits. Cheers!
DeleteExactly it is still going on now but parents think children muSt need to do the things in particular time only study means study marriage means marriage etc if they give time to their children they can turn up their according to their necessary
ReplyDeleteTrue. Timelines for individual things like study, marriage had become an mandatory barrier. We’ve tried to explain it as much as possible. Thank you.
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