WEEK-IN #7

Here comes the unknown. 

Confusion

Topic isn’t particularly unknown. This is actually know to every living being on this planet, from a dog getting confused whether to bite you or bark at you, to a human getting confused whether to run away or be a macho (That is gonna end up at “Runaway” anyways). The real unknown is the option to pick from the two. 

Every single decision we take will have a hell lot of options. We bring those down to two almost every single time. The option which feels Logical and the option which we get connected to Emotionally. A lot of people would suggest the simple solution of picking the Logical option. I used to be one of those. But, Neglecting the Emotional option is gonna eat your mental stability slowly. Yet, neglecting the Logical option is never a great idea (You all know why). You keep searching for a middle ground and will stop doing everything else. And, that’s even worse than dog biting you. 

First point always to accept is, there is no middle ground between an Emotional choice and a Logical choice. You are searching for the unknown. One way you could come out of this chaos is, including a second person into the decision picking process. Not a random person, but a person who truly and genuinely understands your emotion. That’s tough for a lot of people cause these confusion battles are generally fought alone. Then comes another problem. Once the other person suggests an option, you start leaning into the other option. That’s a paradox. There were situations where these kind of discussions went on and on for days. What’s the solution?

That’s actually tricky. There isn’t one solution, as there won’t only be a single confusion of whether to eat Biryani or Naan. Every single thing we analyse, we end up at two decisions and that goes on for all eternity. The solution that worked for me is involving a second guy who truly understands me to the fullest. That creates a trust on the other person’s choice, rather than an argument. And, pick the choice they’ve suggested. No going back. Of course there are people who would not like to share such things with anyone else. The only suggestion I’d give to everyone is, have a person whom you would trust without any second thought. That helps most of the times (Except that time when I paid for his movie ticket. Never got the money back. Will make him pay triple some day).