WEEK-IN #10

 By their side

How could you help a person? For most of the problems we have, we feel that's supporting financially. That's great when you are not able to spend enough time on their support. So, the best way to support a person is by being on their side and giving them your time. Of course, everything I've said is subjective to the person, the problem they have, what they are expecting. Still, time is always better.

I won't say that the more you support financially, the less time you could give them. But, the kind of situation always matters. You give Rs.2000 to a 5-year-old child and expect him to be happy? Everyone's needs are a bit different every single time, and you first have to understand their need and then think of how to support them.

Of course, you only have 24 hours a day and you also have to work on your own stuff. That is the reason everyone needs a bit of your time for their support, cause time's finite. Anything infinite is gonna lose its value. This is something like the assets to a billionaire. Their assets are basically infinite, so it loses value for them. Time's always precious than anything you own and planning your 24 hours always make you feel confident.

This does not only work for our closest ones. You see a homeless person on the street and donate some money, that's good. But, try knowing what they want and do it for them, that's excellent. Doing it every day might not be possible, but doing it once in a while makes you and the homeless person happy.

On the flip side, you start supporting everyone by giving your time, people start seeking more of your support whenever they feel down. That's good for everyone except you. Being emotionally strong after listening to everyone's tough times is a hell lot harder than what you could ever imagine. You start feeling down, no good's gonna come out of it. And, you start rejecting people, that's gonna pull your emotional state down even further. That's really tough and I don't have an exact solution.

So, first thing's first. You cheer yourself up and then support others. You start feeling down, take some time off to recalibrate. This works to some extent. For obvious reasons, not everyone would like to hear every other person's problems. We all have our own problems to solve. But, that's more of a reason to support everyone, cause you know how hard it is to tackle everything alone.